Monday, 23 March 2020

Coronavirus - 50/50 parenting

As many already know, I fully support the idea of shared 50/50 parenting and do as much as I can to raise awareness of the possible impacts of parental alienation and parental child abduction.. However....

Right now people are in isolation in order to fight this coronavirus. The thought of "will this affect my contact visits?" should not really be approached.. Try to communicate with your ex to arrange skype/facetime/whatapp/zoom if your child is not currently in your care... you know it makes sense!!! KIDS FIRST!!!

I know that communicating with an alienating "parent" and trying to encourage them to be reasonable (to put your child first) might be almost impossible... but you need to try!

To my daughter Aleyah... ALWAYS loving you... Always thinking of you... Forever your Dad... One day closer...

Stay safe...!!!!


#ParentalAlienation #parentalchildabduction #sharedparenting #coronavirus #kidsfirst #stayhome

Wednesday, 18 March 2020

Father's Day Wishes

Fathers Day here in Spain, Italy and a number of other courtries... 

Happy Father's day to all good dads out there.. Or at least, as happy as it can be with the difficult situation the world is in at the moment..

It really is so difficult and the emotions heighten even more on key dates.. Even more so with what is going on at the moment..

I'm sure many alienated parents, like me, worry about mortality from time to time.. What if something happened to me?

Who would care enough to make sure my daughter is ok and also to make sure she knows how much I have tried for so long to be in her life?

Who would care enough to let her know who I really am.. Not the person her mother has portrayed me to be in order to tactically remove her from home in Spain and erase me and my family from her life?

What if anything happened to our daughter? Would I even be told? I have to play a detective role to find out anything about her.. It is so damn cruel.. Enough is enough.. Imagine how this behaviour might impact our child not only in childhood but also into adulthood!


Please don't forget that parents who cannot see their children due to abduction and /or alienation ARE still daddies or mummies on these days.

The difference being that it cannot be acknowledged by the children that they love with all of their hearts...

Thoughts with all affected parents, grandparents, families AND of course, their children.... One day closer x

#fathersday #kidsfirst #parentalalienation #parentalchildabduction #onedaycloser

Sunday, 1 March 2020

Mediation - The solution in cases of Parental Child Abduction?

I think we can fully agree that mediation is the best solution for the child so there is support for parents to put their children first over any dispute they might have with each other. 

Unfortunately though, there are many cases where mediation is NOT possible especially when parental alienation and/or false allegations are taking place and those cases which are no longer considered abduction cases due to the tactics used to remove the child AND those cases that have been ongoing for a long period of time.

In those cases, I don't feel that there is ANY current charity/organisation that can effectively support the left behind family nor the child.

Are you aware of any not just in UK but worldwide? 

My hope is that some charity and/or organisation will start to raise awareness of THOSE issues as well as just mediation.

Another issue is supporting the child and the left behind parent/family in a reunification process after being subject to alienation.

The child is left to "possibly" work things out.. But how difficult it must be to realise that a parent that they love and trust has been lying to them or tactically brainwashing them? (or hold on to the polluted portrayal of their other parent)

What support is given to the child and the left behind parent in situations like that?

#ParentalAlienation #parentalchildabduction #kidsfirst #mediation #familycourt