2020 Christmas Message

Another Xmas come and gone.. Once again, it hasn't been easy but thank you so much to all close to me who made a difficult time of year as enjoyable as was possible... In particular, Michelle, who really is my rock.

Thanks also to family and friends who I really do appreciate the messages of support and for the cards that include Aleyah even though she has been absent now for over 10 years.. I keep every single message for her so she will see for herself how much she is loved and missed xxxx

I hope my daughter Aleyah had a wonderful day despite the covid restrictions... I hope with all of my heart that 2021 will be our year to be reunited...

I pray that abducting/alienating parents (and families) are given a conscience and realise how wrong their behaviour is and put a stop to it for their children's sake!!

Thoughts with all good parents who are so wrongfully alienated and/or restricted from being with their children and of course to the children who are wrongfully stopped from being with a parent and one side of their family..

This madness won't go on forever.. Stay strong and don't be beaten.. whether it's tomorrow, in the near future or further in time, your children will need you so don't give up!

ALWAYS loving you Aleyah... FOREVER your Dad.. One more day closer xx

Abuse of Family Court Systems Article

I remember when I wrote this, it got a mixed reception as it was a very sensitive subject to parents affected by parental alienation and parental child abduction and a few comments argued that it is providing an instruction guide for the alienator. I understand totally, as many parents affected by these behaviours can relate closely to a number of points in this article.

If you have NOT been through the family court processes, these points collectively might seem hard to believe.. After all, the courts work in the best interest of the child right?? There is no smoke without fire right?

This article highlights some tactics used in the hope that people can understand how easily the family court systems can be manipulated..

There are no winners in these cases other that the financial gain of legal professionals.. Least of all the child who stands to be separated from one side of their family (who love the child wholeheartedly) for many years, if not for a lifetime.

It can be a cause of psychological damage and even suicide for both the family and child..

Please read the article and comment if you can. Feedback - positive or negative is appreciated.

https://link.medium.com/jRaN0lNhG8

“Abuse of the family court systems” by Steven Monk-Dalton

Coronavirus - 50/50 parenting

As many already know, I fully support the idea of shared 50/50 parenting and do as much as I can to raise awareness of the possible impacts of parental alienation and parental child abduction.. However....

Right now people are in isolation in order to fight this coronavirus. The thought of "will this affect my contact visits?" should not really be approached.. Try to communicate with your ex to arrange skype/facetime/whatapp/zoom if your child is not currently in your care... you know it makes sense!!! KIDS FIRST!!!

I know that communicating with an alienating "parent" and trying to encourage them to be reasonable (to put your child first) might be almost impossible... but you need to try!

To my daughter Aleyah... ALWAYS loving you... Always thinking of you... Forever your Dad... One day closer...

Stay safe...!!!!

xxxxxxxxx

#ParentalAlienation #parentalchildabduction #sharedparenting #coronavirus #kidsfirst #stayhome

Father's Day Wishes

Fathers Day here in Spain, Italy and a number of other courtries... 

Happy Father's day to all good dads out there.. Or at least, as happy as it can be with the difficult situation the world is in at the moment..

It really is so difficult and the emotions heighten even more on key dates.. Even more so with what is going on at the moment..

I'm sure many alienated parents, like me, worry about mortality from time to time.. What if something happened to me?

Who would care enough to make sure my daughter is ok and also to make sure she knows how much I have tried for so long to be in her life?

Who would care enough to let her know who I really am.. Not the person her mother has portrayed me to be in order to tactically remove her from home in Spain and erase me and my family from her life?

What if anything happened to our daughter? Would I even be told? I have to play a detective role to find out anything about her.. It is so damn cruel.. Enough is enough.. Imagine how this behaviour might impact our child not only in childhood but also into adulthood!

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Please don't forget that parents who cannot see their children due to abduction and /or alienation ARE still daddies or mummies on these days.

The difference being that it cannot be acknowledged by the children that they love with all of their hearts...

Thoughts with all affected parents, grandparents, families AND of course, their children.... One day closer x

#fathersday #kidsfirst #parentalalienation #parentalchildabduction #onedaycloser

Mediation - The solution in cases of Parental Child Abduction?

I think we can fully agree that mediation is the best solution for the child so there is support for parents to put their children first over any dispute they might have with each other. 

Unfortunately though, there are many cases where mediation is NOT possible especially when parental alienation and/or false allegations are taking place and those cases which are no longer considered abduction cases due to the tactics used to remove the child AND those cases that have been ongoing for a long period of time.

In those cases, I don't feel that there is ANY current charity/organisation that can effectively support the left behind family nor the child.

Are you aware of any not just in UK but worldwide? 

My hope is that some charity and/or organisation will start to raise awareness of THOSE issues as well as just mediation.

Another issue is supporting the child and the left behind parent/family in a reunification process after being subject to alienation.

The child is left to "possibly" work things out.. But how difficult it must be to realise that a parent that they love and trust has been lying to them or tactically brainwashing them? (or hold on to the polluted portrayal of their other parent)

What support is given to the child and the left behind parent in situations like that?

#ParentalAlienation #parentalchildabduction #kidsfirst #mediation #familycourt