Wednesday, 26 December 2018

Another Xmas Come and Gone

Another Xmas come and gone.. Once again, it hasn't been easy but thank you so much to all close to me who made a difficult time of year as enjoyable as was possible... 

Thanks to Matt, Mark, David, Claire and Joyce for making us feel so welcome on our visit. To Laura and Mark and the kids (Michelles grandchildren) for sharing Christmas Day festivities with us and the wonderful meal and also of course to Michelle who is always so supportive and really is my rock.. Love ya!!

Thanks also to family and friends who I really do appreciate the many messages of support.. And for the cards that include Aleyah even though she has been absent now for almost 10 years.. I keep every single message for her so she will see for herself how much she is loved and missed xxxx

I so hope my daughter Aleyah had a wonderful day... I hope with all of my heart that 2019 will be our year to be reunited... 

I pray that abducting/alienating parents are given a conscience and realise how wrong their behaviour is and put a stop to it for their children's sake!! 

Thoughts with all good parents who are so wrongfully alienated and/or restricted from being with their children and of course to the children who are wrongfully stopped from being with a parent and one side of their family.. 

This madness won't go on forever.. Stay strong and don't be beaten.. whether it's tomorrow, in the near future or further in time, your children will need you so don't give up!

ALWAYS loving you ALEYAH... FOREVER your Dad.. One more day closer xx 

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Friday, 14 December 2018

Christmas message

Wishing everybody a happy & wonderful Christmas / holiday season
For those who are parents who are not able to see their children through parental child abduction/parental alienation/retention, my heart goes out to you and empathise with the hurt that you will undoubtedly be feeling. I feel it too. 

Also so much thought for those who are suffering the bereavement of their children through illness or accident. It must be such a very traumatic time and must hurt so much in particular on these key dates.

Please stay strong and try to enjoy the season as much as possible with the people around you that are important in your life.

If you know anybody that is going through a difficult time or is on their own, check in on them. Involve them where you can. These holidays are a celebration  but also additionally difficult for some. 

If you have your children / grandchildren with you this year, treasure every single moment with them. They will never be this age again.. You are very blessed..xx
Thank you to all who have stayed the distance, inspired me and helped me to stay focused and positive when I have needed it most. Also to the crazy loons I call friends who keep me smiling...

I really can't put into words how much I appreciate all that have given so much love and support. I'm blessed to have some amazing people around me.
Wishing my own daughter Aleyah a wonderful Christmas and pray that we are reunited very soon

I continue to plea to the maternal family to end this madness. Enough is enough. The tactics to remove Aleyah from her home in Spain (for the 2nd time) were dispicable. Unforgivable.. 

It allowed you to achieve your objective. To erase Aleyah's paternal family from your life. But in doing that, you are also alienating Aleyah from her paternal family who love her unconditionally. 

It is time to move forward and think of our daughter. She is an amazing young lady and has been given opportunities on stage that I probably couldnt have provided but what I would have provided is a loving relationship with both the maternal and paternal families. 

I am so proud of her for everything she is achieving and also the way that her teachers say that she is keeping her feet on the ground. 

One day I am sure you know we will be reunited. Aleyah is on my mind every single day and she does not deserve to be deceived in the way she has been. 

Changing her name on stage, lies, deception, alienation, false allegations etc will never take away the fact that I am her father and I will always look out for her in any way I can. 

You know this is the right thing to do even if you would never admit to the tactics you have used. It is time to move forward and allow her to have her father in her life.
My details are:
0034 622 925 754

One More Day Closer!! xx

Thursday, 13 December 2018

Charity Football Game

I have credited one one my Reunite JustGiving pages for the total of €235 which was raised in a recent game in support of 2 charities. Reunite being one of those chosen charities by football friends in Los Montesinos.

More photographs can be found on

The JustGiving page credited was the computer fund page

Overall, that takes our fundraising total to £6,562.72

Saturday, 17 November 2018

Aleyahs appearance on Children in Need

I was so proud to see my daughter Aleyah perform with the cast of School of Rock at the opening of Children in Need on BBC1 last night.

All of the cast are so talented and it must be an amazing experience to be a part of this show. 

Now here is a frustrating part. I only found out about this by chance because Stagebox (her agent) have filtered me from seeing any posts about Aleyah :/.

So sad that the longer this goes on, the more that people accept the situation the way it is.. They ignore the blatant alienating behaviour that can have a devastating impact on these children in years to come..

Its obvious that Stagebox are aligned to her mothers alienating behaviour and there is not a damn thing I can do about it.. Nor do people seem to even care anymore.. 

Aleyah is being taught to use the name Aaliyah Monk rather than her name Aleyah Monk-Dalton which is yet another alienating tactic to erase her true identity and her paternal family which seems to be supported by her agent who I have tried to contact several times but refuse to communicate with me about Aleyah's progress

Obviously upset, angry, frustrated and disillusioned.. But also very proud.. Who will help Aleyah reunite with her paternal family? There seems to be nowhere to turn... Nowhere!

But.. I will continue doing everything I can to be involved in her life no matter what obstacles are placed in front of me.. I love her, I will always love her her and I will always be her proud dad.. 

Now once again I will plea to the maternal family, stop this alienating behaviour. You may have managed to deceive the courts to facililate parentectomy but it will not last forever. I will always do whatever I can to be in her life. I am sure you know that..

Once again I open the lines of communication to contact me on my email or my mobile/whatapp 0034 622 925 754.. Please start putting Aleyah first and stop the lies and deceptions. She deserves to be loved and supported by both parents.

One day closer xxxxxx

Saturday, 10 November 2018

Miss you Aleyah

Miss you so much Aleyah.. Not a day goes by without you on my mind and in my heart.. Always loving you... FOREVER your dad... One day closer xx 

#aleyahmonkdalton (aka alienation/stagename #aaliyahmonk) #onedaycloser #prouddad
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Saturday, 20 October 2018

Its time to put an end to this!

For several years now I have done what I can to raise awareness of issues surrounding parental child abduction and parental alienation through various events, ventures and activities.

I have spoken with many parents and families that are or have been in a similar position to ourselves. 

Whilst doing this, I have continually fought my own battles in attempting to reunite with my own daughter and pleading for the malicious tactics to stop. 

The lies and deception used as a mechanism to remove our child from her home and paternal family was so very very wrong. 

I have, several times each year, spoken with and visited school to keep updated on progress in school and in her performing activities despite the brick walls that keep being built around me.

Several times, we have watched her perform in dance and musicals but remained as anonymous faces in the crowd. 

I have pleaded for mediation over and over again which was continually refused despite our efforts to state that the maternal family's past alienating behaviour would be left in the past if we can ensure that our child can be allowed to be loved by both parents and families without the nasty false allegations that were used to take her and keep us apart.

I tried to keep my faith and belief that the system would eventually reunite us and maybe, just maybe, our child would no longer be used as a weapon and her best interests would be placed as priority.

Sadly, we are almost 10 years later on and there seems to be no change in the maternal family's position. 

Tragically also, our daughter did not get the opportunity to be reunited with her paternal grandmother who absolutely and unconditionally adored her. 

Do they not feel any remorse at all? This really has to end.. 

One day I am sure that they know that the truth will be told. Maybe that is what they are scared of?  The lies and deception can maybe one day be forgiven but they need to understand that this would take work. 

There is a reason why previous close friends of the maternal family turned their back on them. It is because the tactics used were abusive and so very wrong. 

It's not too late to change but I realise that there will be a lot of repair work needed to heal the damage already caused.

I will ask again... Contact me and make a start on putting this repair work into action.. The longer it goes on, the harder it will be.

Our daughter is of an age now where she can understand and I hope she will see that her paternal family has never stopped loving her and thinking about her and never will stop... Maybe she will reach out? Our door will always be open. 

I can be contacted on my email or my mobile phone/whatsapp 0034 622 925 754..

One more day closer xxx

Friday, 12 October 2018

Parental Child Abduction Driven by Parental Alienation Behaviour

Below is a link to an interesting article / blog

I'm quite aligned to Karens thoughts on parental alienation. 

Parental child abduction is often an action triggered by parental alienation behaviour (not always). In those cases, impartiality is part of the problem; Not the solution in my opinion. 

Unfortunately, some organisations although doing some very good work in some areas are sadly financially driven to state impatiality. This I feel is a problem.

There needs to be a line between what is right and what is wrong in order to effectively prompt change.

Wednesday, 26 September 2018

The Future

The Future... "One thing you should be aware of is that at some point, your children will start to ask questions and possibly realise how you have lied and deceived them too....

There will come a point where you cannot control them anymore and this might result in YOU losing them in their adult lives.

This doesn’t seem to matter to you too much right now as you have won your war against the other parent and family by preventing your child from having a loving and healthy relationship with the person you seem to hate more than you love your child"... But you have to realise that this is not only emotional abuse of your childs other side of the family; it is emotional abuse of the child you claim to love!!


There is still opportunity to change this..

Now is the time to put your children first... 

Stop parental child abduction

Stop parental alienation

Stop hostile "parenting"

One Day Closer x








Tuesday, 11 September 2018

Why do I post on blogs and social media?

Obviously, one HUGE reason I post about parental child abduction and parental alienation is that my daughter was parentally abducted 10 years ago and returned home via Hague proceedings.
I thought this would have been the end of matters but how wrong could I have been?...

The most devious and heinous tactics were used to remove her again a year later and I have not been allowed to see her since... Nor "should" I even talk about details of the case or even her name on this media due to the deception and misuse of the UK family courts..

I was gagged from speaking about the case on any media. I tried to do everything that was asked of me but nothing was changing.. I finally lost my faith in the family court system being a resolution..
Not a day goes by without me thinking of my little girl.. I love her with ALL of my heart!! I will continue to do everything I can to make sure she is reunited with her Dad and paternal family.

Another reason I post so much on the subject is that during the time I have been trying to reunite with my own child, I have spoken to MANY other parents and families that have been affected by parental child abduction and / or parental alienation. I was shocked to see that the situation we find ourselves in is by far an isolated case.

This HAS to be seen as a major problem in the family courts and between jurisdictions
MANY children are abducted and/or alienated from good parents every single day.

These children are used as weapons, pawns and possessions by an abducting/alienating parent that the child is supposed to be able to trust...

Instead they are subjecting the child that they claim to love to a most horrible emotional abuse.. Not to mention the abuse of the left behind family..

Sadly, quite often the authorities and the courts seem to facilitate this behaviour by allowing themselves to be lied to, deceived and manipulated... (why isnt perjury deterred in the family courts?)

If you are blessed enough to have your children with you, imagine what it would be like if you woke in the morning to find that they are no longer there... Imagine not knowing where they have been taken to or if you will ever see them again.

Imagine trying to plead for help from the authorities and they do nothing or very little to help...

Imagine going from day to day trying to be reunited with your child but nothing seems to progress... In fact, the longer it takes, the less concern people seem to show.. All is considered OK...

It is not OK... It never will be OK.. These are emotional abuses that seem to be tolerated..

I hope some of my posts help to raise awareness of some of the issues.. I also hope that you do read some of them and dont get too frustrated with me for posting about the issues so much... If you do, feel free to mute or remove me. I wont take offense... One day closer xxx
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Sunday, 9 September 2018

September 10th - World Suicide Prevention Day.... What can you do?

Connect - ask how someone is

If you think someone might be feeling unwell, depressed; don’t be afraid to ask how they are.

 Anyone can experience a mental health problem, so being able to talk about it is important to us all. And you don’t need to be an expert on mental health. Often, small everyday actions can make the biggest difference.

They might want to talk about it, or they might not. But just letting them know they don’t have to avoid the issue with you is important. Just spending time with the person lets them know you care and can help you understand what they’re going through.


Thoughts today with all who are or who have experienced suicidal thoughts and families that have been affected..

A message for Gautam's daughter who some of my contacts related to parental child abduction / parental alienation may know: your Dad fought to be in your life until his very last breath.. He is not forgotten and NEVER will be.. I hope you will someday know of the love and dedication he had for you.. You were always his angel ... Xx #worldsuicidepreventionday #suicide #talk #connect

Monday, 3 September 2018

False Allegations - Big Brother

I dont know if anybody saw news on the UK show Big Brother the other day but there was an incident on the show where a "celebrity" made a serious allegation against another contestant which resulted in him having a formal warning..

I think we could all agree that the allegation was at the very least, grossly exaggerated..

This was placed in the spotlight on national television. Do you not think that this incident could show what often occurs in the family courts as a tool to "win" a case?

It made me sick to my stomach not only the allegation but how the show dealt with it.. A formal warning?? Really??

People who are REALLY victims of domestic violence or violence against women should be just as outraged about this.. It was disgusting...

It seems that now her career is in tatters, she makes a public apology. Sorry for what she did or sorry for the impact it has had on her??? Hmmm.

Interestingly, womens aid are still defending her actions to a point..

Monday, 27 August 2018

Aleyah's 13th Birthday

Obviously, these key dates are difficult. It was my daughter Aleyah's 13th birthday. 

The last one we had together was when she was 4!! As we do every year, we tried to still "celebrate" her birthday in her absence.. 

We put all gifts and cards in a memory chest for her in the hope that one day she will see them to know that I and her friends and family, have never.. and will never give up on her... 

 We once again had cake (obviously to Michelle's delight) and as we do each year, went to a number of places Aleyah loved to go when she was here... It helps to still celebrate these days but it is very emotional x 

 These pictures show Aleyah 9 years ago and us in the same places today.. 

Below is a slide show from our travels which I hope that Aleyah will see...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ALEYAH.. ALWAYS loving you... FOREVER your Dad.. One day closer xxxx
0034 622 925 754

Wednesday, 22 August 2018

Aleyah's 13th birthday plan

Happy birthday to my little girl Aleyah for Saturday... She will be 13 years old... (not so little anymore) 

Thank you for the people who have sent messages... It means a lot when family and friends acknowledge these special days and also continuing to send these messages to me directly (her dad) despite her still being absent... at the moment... 

 I will keep every last message until she has the opportunity to read them herself... 

I will be celebrating her birthday with Michelle, with a cake will take more photos to put in her box that I have been keeping for her... 

 We will be once again going to a number of places she used to love going including Rio safari where we will make another braid on her favourite pony McCloud which we have done each birthday since she was taken. (sounds silly I know...).. That's because she did a braid when she was here.. 

 I miss her so much... Not a day goes by without her in my mind and in my heart... We are one more day closer x

 #aleyahmonkdalton (aka stage/alienation name #aaliyahmonk) #onedaycloser

Tuesday, 21 August 2018

Aleyah's graduation from the School of Rock UK cast

Aleyah's graduation from School of Rock Cast.. Another day closer Aleyah xxx 

#onedaycloser #aleyahmonkdalton aka alienation/stage name #aaliyahmonk #prouddad

Court Tactics all too common

There are such obvious and common patterns of behaviour and "tactics" that are evident in many cases of parental child abduction and alienation.

When reading many articles/posts, it seems like they are all working from the same handbook of emotional abuse... 

In these cases why don't the courts and childcare "professionals" identify these patterns? If they do, why do they ignore them? 

Why do they not hold accountable parents that resort to false allegations and perjury?

 Why is the child not automatically provided emotional help in family law cases? They are the most important people and are often having to cope with one or both "parents" using them as weapons to win their family court case. 

The CHILD can only ever win if the parents can be amicable so why is mediation / shared parenting not the model that the courts encourage as priority? (could this be for financial reasons)?

Monday, 6 August 2018

Change since Walk Across Borders?

3 years since we started Walk Cross Borders. 44 marathons in 44 days to raise awareness of parental child abduction, parental alienation and the Reunite charity and to show MY OWN daughter a small part of what I would do for her.. 

This started at Orihuela Court in Spain and ended at RCJ London.. Quite a lot of awareness was raised during this event but sadly, In this last few years, there has been little progress in reuniting with my daughter, mediation point blank refused and very tragically, my daughter has lost a loving grandmother perminently. 

I will keep reaching out to plea to the maternal family for this bs to end and stop the disgraceful alienating tactics that continues to keep us apart.. 8 years stolen so far :(... One more day closer..

#parentalalienation #parentalchildabduction #onedaycloser #walkacrossborders

Thursday, 2 August 2018

Parental Alienation / Parental Child Abduction - Thoughts of a Parent

Dear Parents

How are you today? I hope all is well and you are blessed to be able to treasure some moments of your day for quality time with your children...Please treasure every single second.

I'm sure some days are testing. That's what being a parent is all about but I am sure that many families that have been affected by parental child abduction and/or alienation would love to be in your position because many have not been able to even communicate with their child for months... or like myself, sometimes years and sadly this is mostly due to the selfishness of the other "parent" as well as the family court systems that appear to facilitate this abuse.

I write today because I am feeling particularly down about the situation some parents find themselves in. When an abduction occurs, at the beginning, there is absolute uproar with friends and family.

"How can the other parent do this?"
"It is so wrong for this to happen. What can we do to help?"

Fantastic!.. There is an instant rallying together to try to resolve the situation because obviously, the authorities won't allow this to happen for long will they?..... WRONG !!

There is no rush to resolve the situation with the authorities (that would reduce their pay cheques). 

A parent tries to do everything they can to resolve the situation and often go directly to a lawyer and pay a retainer if they have the money or look to family and friends to help them. 

They may find these lawyers with very little research into their background in family law or international cross border child issues as the urgency to resolve the situation does not allow time to do this research.

The parent does this as a gut reaction as they believe that the system is BOUND to protect them and their children.. . After all... to steal a child is obviously a crime..  WRONG AGAIN !! Well... it is a crime but is it really enforced as being one???

Even with the protection of the Hague Convention and Brussels II revised which is supposed to protect from this occurring. So many stalling and devious tactics are used by "legal experts" which are abusive, cruel and immoral such as trying to portray the affected parent as unfit with false allegations.

The system as it stands is set up for these tactics to be used as there is little or no deterrent nor accountability for using them. 

In fact, they are sometimes rewarded with legal aid which is part of the reason that this "method" is used. 

Sadly, there is no thought whatsoever by an abducting/alienating "parent" or their legal advisors into the possible long term emotional affects on the family and the children..

The affected parent continues to do everything they can to resolve the situation.. Paying additional expenses for lawyers and barristers and well as travelling back and forth to the country they have been abducted or removed to. 

They often get themselves in so much financial trouble as a result of this that they might never recover from..

 As the situation goes on and on with no or limited resolution, the concern of friends and family often diminishes. Instead of the initial uproar, they sometimes hear comments like..

"It will all work out someday when they are older"

"He / she seems to be happy"

"All must be ok because they are with the other parent"

"You need to continue with your life because they will come back someday"

"They will work out the truth someday" 

Etc.. Etc.. Etc... 

If you are affected, I am sure you can add much more to this list as you are wiping away your tears on a daily basis because, to you, the first person you think of a the start of the day is your absent child and continues throughout each and every day..

 You learn to become stronger on the outside but it never becomes easier and your love for your child never lessens. 

The fact that the child was effectively stolen and retained from their other parent and family no longer seems a concern to most.. and the longer this goes on, the less concern there seems to be. 

These parents are so frustrated about this because the longer this goes on actually shows even more how wrong this situation is. 

People sometimes no longer to even relate you to being a parent... 

Remember the Xmas cards etc where your child is no longer mentioned - EVEN from close friends and family? Hurts doesn't it??

 The abducting / alienating parent has been allowed to erase you and your family from their lives aided and abetted by the system/authorities that you put your trust in. 

So at this point, what does a parent do? Give up? Pretend their child never even existed, box the emotions away? It seems that this is what is expected..

Some find the strength to carry on doing everything they can to be reunited with their child and look at different ways of achieving this... but the more time goes on, the less help they seem to get ... even from organisation that specialise in these issues.

A parent becomes so frustrated and sometimes feel that talking about what they can be doing to reunite with their child becomes a taboo subject.. After all, they've had the time to "get over it"

People need to understand that they will NEVER "Get over it"... They just learn to be stronger and cope as best they can with the situation.

If you have a family member of a close friend in a similar position, please give them some thought from time to time. They might go about their lives wearing a plastic smile but inside they hurt just as much, if not more, today than they did when this whole nightmare started. 

One Day Closer all xxxx

Tuesday, 31 July 2018

Stop the hate! Stop the alienation! Stop the abuse!

There will come a point where you cannot control the thoughts of your child anymore and this might result in you losing them in their adult lives. 

If your children "are your world" then why do you HATE half of who they are so much that you feel the need to alienate them from the other parent and family?

#parentalalienation #parentalchildabduction #onedaycloser #stoptheabuse

Friday, 27 July 2018

Aleyah's role as Summer comes to an end

Just to let you know, my daughter Aleyah ends her role of Summer in School of Rock, London next month. Thank you to all who went to see her in the show (or tried to) and sent me photos.. It really does mean so much to me that you cared enough to do that and I'm sure it will to her too when we are reunited whenever that might be.. I have written all of your names and the date you went in the notebook I had made for her which will be kept in her memory chest.. One more day closer xxxx

Thursday, 26 July 2018

Join us on the Reunite Walk - 15th September

As mentioned in earlier posts, the Reunite International Child Abduction Centre annual walk is taking place at Stave Hill Ecology Park, London on Saturday 15th September

It would be great if we can get more people there.. Parents.. family members.. Friends/supporters. 

The more people that go, the more awareness we can show to people that are not necessarily affected by parental child abduction / retention / parental alienation as well as highlighting to MPs, authorities, media, social media etc.

It's an opportunity for parents to speak to others in a similar position to realise that they are not alone and give each other much needed support. It's also a good opportunity to speak to people from Reunite.

It only takes place once per year so I really hope that people will do what they can to give their support

We have booked our flights from Spain to be there so look forward to seeing you if you can make it.. 

Let Reunite know if you want to be there with us : +44 (0)116 2555 345 or

Remember.. This walk is primarily about getting parents, families together who have been affected by parental child abduction and friends/family/supporters. It is only 5km in a very pleasant setting..

Stave Hill Ecological Park

Timber Pond Rd, London SE16 6AX, UK

Any sponsorship / monies raised is a bonus but I have set up a new Justgiving page to try to raise monies to update their IT to better support affected families though their advice line

Sunday, 22 July 2018

Always thinking of you Aleyah

Wherever I go, I'm thinking of you Aleyah.. Today I cycled past the swings where you used to play at playa flamenca.. I know you would be too old for these now but memories are all I have right now.. I cannot wait for the day we are reunited.. Always loving you.. Forever your dad.. Xxxx. #onedaycloser #aleyahmonkdalton aka alienation/stage name #aaliyahmonk

Thursday, 19 July 2018

Reunite International Annual Walk - 15th September

Reunite International Child Abduction Centre annual walk will take place this year on Saturday 15th September at Stave Hill Ecology Park in London. 

This walk is primarily about getting parents, families and supporters together who have been affected by parental child abduction.

Any sponsorship / monies raised is a bonus. However, if you do wish to sponsor us to help Reunite support parents and families affected by parental child abduction, you can do so on my Justgiving page

If you would like to participate, please contact reunite on : +44 (0)116 2555 345 or and let them know you would like to support them so they can estimate numbers. Thanks guys xx