Stop the hate! Stop the alienation! Stop the abuse!

There will come a point where you cannot control the thoughts of your child anymore and this might result in you losing them in their adult lives. 

If your children "are your world" then why do you HATE half of who they are so much that you feel the need to alienate them from the other parent and family?

#parentalalienation #parentalchildabduction #onedaycloser #stoptheabuse

Aleyah's role as Summer comes to an end

Just to let you know, my daughter Aleyah ends her role of Summer in School of Rock, London next month. Thank you to all who went to see her in the show (or tried to) and sent me photos.. It really does mean so much to me that you cared enough to do that and I'm sure it will to her too when we are reunited whenever that might be.. I have written all of your names and the date you went in the notebook I had made for her which will be kept in her memory chest.. One more day closer xxxx

Join us on the Reunite Walk - 15th September

As mentioned in earlier posts, the Reunite International Child Abduction Centre annual walk is taking place at Stave Hill Ecology Park, London on Saturday 15th September

It would be great if we can get more people there.. Parents.. family members.. Friends/supporters. 

The more people that go, the more awareness we can show to people that are not necessarily affected by parental child abduction / retention / parental alienation as well as highlighting to MPs, authorities, media, social media etc.

It's an opportunity for parents to speak to others in a similar position to realise that they are not alone and give each other much needed support. It's also a good opportunity to speak to people from Reunite.

It only takes place once per year so I really hope that people will do what they can to give their support

We have booked our flights from Spain to be there so look forward to seeing you if you can make it.. 

Let Reunite know if you want to be there with us : +44 (0)116 2555 345 or reunite@dircon.co.uk

Remember.. This walk is primarily about getting parents, families together who have been affected by parental child abduction and friends/family/supporters. It is only 5km in a very pleasant setting..

Stave Hill Ecological Park

Timber Pond Rd, London SE16 6AX, UK

https://goo.gl/maps/ZkwpsUM2KqK2

Any sponsorship / monies raised is a bonus but I have set up a new Justgiving page to try to raise monies to update their IT to better support affected families though their advice line

https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/reunite-spain-computerfund

Always thinking of you Aleyah

Wherever I go, I'm thinking of you Aleyah.. Today I cycled past the swings where you used to play at playa flamenca.. I know you would be too old for these now but memories are all I have right now.. I cannot wait for the day we are reunited.. Always loving you.. Forever your dad.. Xxxx. #onedaycloser #aleyahmonkdalton aka alienation/stage name #aaliyahmonk

Reunite International Annual Walk - 15th September

Reunite International Child Abduction Centre annual walk will take place this year on Saturday 15th September at Stave Hill Ecology Park in London. 

This walk is primarily about getting parents, families and supporters together who have been affected by parental child abduction.

Any sponsorship / monies raised is a bonus. However, if you do wish to sponsor us to help Reunite support parents and families affected by parental child abduction, you can do so on my Justgiving page 

https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/smd-reunite

If you would like to participate, please contact reunite on : +44 (0)116 2555 345 or reunite@dircon.co.uk and let them know you would like to support them so they can estimate numbers. Thanks guys xx

Positive News

Fantastic to hear tonight from a parent who has reunited with his children after several years separated through parental child abduction / parental alienation. There will no doubt be a healing period for them where the damage will need time to repair in order to rebuild their relationships but it was so positive to hear.

I hope they are given help with this process and not simply left to it as it will be a difficult process I am sure. 

Another positive is that the other parent admitted using false allegations as they were advised to by lawyers.. 

Maybe the family courts need to open their eyes and see that this is a tactic to achieve an objective and actually provide some form of deterrent and accountability for legal professionals as well as alienating parents?? .. 

Until they do, it will continue to be a tool used by alienating parents and malicious legal teams without any thought for the possible long term damage on the children xx

JOIN REUNITE PC FUND TEAM

We recently had a visit from Reunite International's CEO and she discussed with me a real need they have to updating their PC support system as it is very outdated and not compatible with some of the software they wish to use to run their adviceline / support system.

As you might know, Reunite International Child Abduction Centre are a registered charity who support parents and families worldwide who have been affected by parental child abduction so for obvious reasons, it is a charity close to my heart.

However, it is a small charity with a limited budget so I thought that maybe there could be something we could do to help them reach the target of £20,000 that they have been quoted..

With that in mind, I set up a justgiving "Team" page where we can add any events and fundraising we do as we go along...

www.justgiving.com/teams/reunite-pcfund

If you would like to donate to this fund or organise an event etc to help them reach this target, click on the link. 

If you are wanting to organise your own event for this fund, why not set up a JustGiving page and add your page to this team by clicking on the "Join the Team" link at the bottom of the team page.

Thanks xxxx

Another Day Closer

Another day closer... Always loving you.. Always thinking of you. Forever your Dad xxx

Wearing School of Rock shirt with pride

Wearing my School of Rock t-shirt with pride.. #prouddad #stickittotheman #schoolofrockuk #aleyahmonkdalton (aka stage/alienation name #aaliyahmonk) #summerhathaway xx

Plea....

Sharing in the hope that the mother and maternal grandparents will start to see how this needs to change.. Please put an end to this behaviour for our daughter's sake.. One day there will be an end to this.. Im sure you know that.. Wouldn't it be better sooner rather than later and have her know that you did that for her rather than the inevitable resentment she may have later in life?

I will plea again ... Please stop the bs..

Surely this must be stressful for everybody and really needs to stop?.. Please just allow our child to be loved and cared for by both parents.. 

The tactics that were used were so bad and have stolen so many years from our lives..

It has stolen our child's grandmother perminently which is unbelievably tragic..

I am trying to put my thoughts about this to one side and think of OUR child.. She deserves to be allowed to be loved and cared for by BOTH of her parents..

Communicate for the sake of our child.. She will thank you for that in the future whatever she is being taught to believe now.. 

Contact

Articles 

Can you forgive.....
Dear Alienating Parent
Patterns of Behaviour
Thoughts of a Parent...
Ironic view of Family Court...

Thoughts for my daughter

Always loving you Aleyah
Always thinking of you...
Forever your dad xxx

One day closer

EI dia del padre

Fathers Day tomorrow here in Spain 'EI dia del padre"...It really is so difficult and the emotions heighten even more on key dates... Please don't forget that parents who cannot see their children due to abduction and /or alienation ARE still daddies or mummies on these days. The difference being that it cannot be acknowledged by the children that they love with all of their hearts... Thoughts with all affected parents, grandparents, families AND of course, their children.... One day closer x
#diadelpadre

International Women's Day

With International Women's Day, I could name several who should have some recognition but as it is international, there are very few more deserving than Alison Shalaby of Reunite International Child Abduction Centre for her work in raising awareness of parental child abduction and her support of parents and families affected by this.. Thanks Alison.. xxx
#reuniteinternationalchildabductioncentre #parentalchildabduction #parentalalienation #internationalwomansday

School Of Rock UK

I am so so proud of you Aleyah. Not a day goes by without me thinking of you.

Always loving you.... Forever your Dad

I cannot wait for the day we are reunited.... One more day closer

xxxxx

Love the picture of you

I saw that Martins Prints UK made a picture of you…

It is amazing!!!

So proud of you Aleyah

Always Loving you

Forever your Dad

One More Day Closer

xxxx

How to Abduct and Retain Your Child

This article was written as an ironic view of how the current family court system can be used to facilitate the abduction and retention of children across international borders. Some of the points mentioned also relate to issues in the domestic family court system.

My reasoning is to highlight the tactics often used in cross border / domestic proceedings in the hope that the various authorities (and/or media) will provide an investigation into these issues which I would like to prompt greater deterrent and accountability.

 
https://medium.com/@SMD_1daycloser/how-to-abduct-and-retain-your-child-a91139915fa0

Another Xmas Come and Gone

Another Xmas come and gone.. Once again, it hasn't been easy but thank you so much to all close to me who made a difficult time of year as enjoyable as was possible...

Thanks to Michelle Clark who opened our dinner table to two lovely elderly people who may otherwise have spent the day alone. This type of selfless act of kindness shows what a special person she is.. (they had a wicked sense of humour too)

I so hope my little girl Aleyah had a good day... I hope with all of my heart that 2018 will be our year to be reunited...

I pray that abducting/alienating parents are given a conscience and realise how wrong their behaviour is and put a stop to it for their children's sake!!

Thoughts with all good parents who are so wrongfully alienated and/or restricted from being with their children.

This madness won't go on forever.. Stay strong and don't be beaten.. whether it's tomorrow, in the near future or further in time, your children will need you so don't give up!

ALWAYS loving you... FOREVER your Daddy.. One more day closer xx

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=2027246604219752&id=100008032963458

Christmas wishes

Wishing everybody a happy & wonderful Christmas.

For those who are parents who are not able to see their children through abduction/alienation, my heart goes out to you and empathise with the hurt that you will undoubtedly be feeling.

Also so much thought for those who are suffering the bereavement of their children through illness or accident. It must be such a very traumatic time and must hurt so much in particular on these key dates.

Please stay strong and try to enjoy the season as much as possible with the people around you that are important in your life.

If you have your children / grandchildren with you this year, treasure every single moment with them. They will never be this age again.. You are very blessed..xx

Thank you to everybody that have stayed the distance, inspired me and helped me to stay focused and positive when I have needed it most. Also to the crazy loons I call friends who keep me smiling...

I really can't put into words how much I appreciate all that have given so much love and support. I'm blessed to have some amazing people around me.

Wishing my own daughter Aleyah a wonderful Christmas and pray that we are reunited very soon

https://youtu.be/zLjvNLKTOWM

Always loving you... Forever your dad..  One Day Closer!! xx

Xmas–Celebration?

Well.. Its less that a week now before Christmas and it is plainly clear that once again, my daughter will not be spending any time or even any communication with her paternal family. This was expected but nevertheless, just as heart-breaking as ever.

I will continue with writing cards and buying small gifts so that she will be able to read them and see that I have never given up... and never will.. Unfortunately, she won't see this until we are reunited..

This is now 8 years!.. and not one day has gone by without her on my mind and in my heart.
I pray that the mother will change her behaviour in 2018 and realise that whatever tactics she tries to use… whatever lies she tells in an attempt to alienate our child, I will keep on doing everything I possibly can to be reunited and be involved in her life.

There are a number of people who really should hang their heads in shame and 2018 is the year where I believe the time is right to become more public in not only raising awareness of parental child abduction and parental alienation, but also my own personal experiences of this occurring and the people who have been party to facilitating this behaviour.

I have been patient for a very long time. I have been silenced from providing any details but have been obedient and respectful of the family courts in the UK despite the horrific mistakes that have been made and the deception that has been used to achieve the objective of removing our daughter´s paternal family from her life.

This year, I tried once again to communicate through lawyers with the mother but her position has not changed and completely refused any mediation. I realise that she might feel the need to keep up the lies to justify her previous actions but maybe… just maybe… she, and the maternal grandparents should start putting our daughter first and be open about what they have done and why they have done it? Sadly, due to their past behaviours, this is necessary even though it might be so difficult for our child to come to terms with the fact that she has been lied to and betrayed for so many years.

They need to understand that at some point, this will be known. Wouldn´t it be better for them to speak to her  about their reasons rather than her find out the truths later. She has already lost to bereavement, a grandmother who loved her wholeheartedly... Please DON´T continue to keep her father from her too.

One more day closer x

Happy Christmas

I would like to take this opportunity to wish all of my friends and family a wonderful Christmas and a very happy 2018

I pray that my own daughter Aleyah has an amazing Christmas too. She has had such an eventful year being cast as Summer in the West End Musical School of Rock under the name of Aaliyah Monk.
https://youtu.be/dRfLRS2-lzg
I was very proud and obviously very emotional when I saw the show a few times this year, all be it an anonymous face in the crowd. I could not stay away from such an important moment in her life and continue to keep pleading with her mother to end this madness and allow her to be reunited with her paternal family who love her wholeheartedly.
Hopefully 2018 will be the year that this happens. It WILL happen at some point but it would be so much better for her if this happens with her mother´s blessing sooner rather than later. She must realise that I will never ever give up.
One more day closer