Sadly, these tactics are used over and over again without deterrent or accountability for doing so...
Dear Alienating / abducting "parents"
You have proven your
point that you can take "ownership" of your child by abducting and
manipulating the system to achieve your goal in destroying the parental
and family bond of the child and family that loves the child
wholeheartedly.
You have
proven that you can make false allegations, lie and deceive the courts
and authorities in any way that you want to without any deterrent or
accountability for doing so.
You have proven that you can portray
a good parent to be an absolute monster and also coach your child in an
attempt to have them believe your lies.
You have proven that you
can use the system over and over again as long as the child's other
parent and family do everything they can to be part of your child's
life.
You have shown that you are prepared to emotionally harm your child and your child's family who love each other unconditionally.
Does this make you proud? Does it give you a feeling of accomplishment
to not only abuse your child's family but also your child him/her self?
Do you realise that this can affect your child, that you claim to love
for the rest of their childhood lives and even into adulthood? Possibly
even for the rest of their lives?
Is this setting a good example for
them being parents when they are older?
Do you realise also that
when those children do start looking for answers, that the alienation
that you are inflicting right now could cause your child to resent you.. and want to alienate you completely from their adult lives?
It is not too late to change your ways. Stop your abuse now.. Please.. For the sake of your child/children.
Anon (bound by gagging orders to "protect" the child from the truth)
It deepenly saddens me to report the tragic death of a loving father Gautam Gulati.
Gautam tried to do everything he could to be reunited with his daughter Zahra after she was parentally abducted from India by her mother and refused any access with his child.
The impact of this abduction was extreme on the whole family. Only a few months ago, Gautam had to cope with the tragic loss of his mother who he was very close to. This hit Gautam very hard.
Although Gautam was forced into the position of fighting through the courts in both jurisdictions, which was extremely stressful, he still took the time to try to support other parents who are so cruelly separated from their children. He was a very kind and special man who will be sadly missed.
I spoke to Gautam last Monday and he was so much more confident and positive that the appeals process was finally working in his favour to allow him to be reunited with his child. You can imagine how shocked and saddened I was to hear this news.
He, like many other parents who are affected by parental child abduction and parental alienation, was often frustrated, disillusioned in the system that he tried to put his trust in, and emotionally broken due to the help he pleaded for being ignored or dismissed. It hurt him terribly.
As yet, the cause of his death has not been confirmed.
I pray that one day, Zahra will know how much he loved her and fought for her. She has suffered a very tragic and perminent loss.
The lady seems to know and understand the issues so well. I have read many posts by her and I respect and agree with almost all. Keep up the excellent work Karen. One Day Closer xx
......"Parental alienation is NOT about conflict between two parents even though it may look like that from the outside to the naive or unaware professional, it is about the actions of one parent, often an unwell parent, who is causing the child to reject the other parent, which causes the rejected parent to feel upset, hurt, unheard and often angry that help is not available.
Parental alienation is NOT about parents acting badly it is about one parent acting badly and the other being drawn into a desperate struggle to save their relationship with their child.
Parental alienation IS child abuse and like all child abuse it is harmful to the child not to intervene AND stop it AND punish the perpetrator especially if that person will not stop it and cannot show insight into what they have done......"
Rewarding career opportunity advertised by Reunite International Child Abduction Centre.
Reunite International Child Abduction Centre is looking for an office administrator to assist with the smooth running of our city centre office.
The main focus of the role is too :
· Administer and manage the reunite mediation service
· Provide reception duties including staffing the administration line, welcoming visitors and managing emails
· Assist with fundraising events / seminars and general office administration
The successful candidate must be an excellent communicator with strong interpersonal and administrative skills, have plenty of common sense and be able to work as part of a small team.
Hours 9:30 am – 5:30 pm – Salary £18,200 per annum
Please send CV and covering letter to the postal address below..
Reunite International
Child Abduction Centre
PO Box 7124
Leicester
LE1 7XX
United Kingdom
Registered Charity No. 1075729
Closing date 31 st January 2017.
Skills you have will greatly needed by reunite International Child Abduction Centre, we hope that after you send your RESUME to Full time Office Administrator reunite International Child Abduction Centre, you can grow up your career.
For those who are parents who are not able to see their children through abduction/alienation, my heart goes out to you and empathise with the hurt that you will undoubtedly be feeling.
Also so much thought for those who are suffering the bereavement of their children through illness or accident. It must be such a very traumatic time and must hurt so much in particular on these key dates.
Please stay strong and try to enjoy the season as much as possible with the people around you that are important in your life.
If you have your children / grandchildren with you this year, treasure every single moment with them. They will never be this age again.. You are very blessed..xx
Thank you to everybody that have stayed the distance, inspired me and helped me to stay focused and positive when I have needed it most. Also to the crazy loons I call friends who keep me smiling...
I really can't put into words how much I appreciate all that have given so much love and support. I'm blessed to have some amazing friends and family.
Thank you so much for your continued support in 2016. Our efforts and
your kindness has now raised an amazing £6,222 in total for Reunite International Child Abduction Centre through One Day Closer.
A special thank you to Costa Blanca Tranquillity Lodge, as well as the The Fire Station
bar, Shani and Andy Ormiston, all the football teams competing in the
Reunite International Shield including the singers who entertained in
the evening events, those who supported my skydive and also a huge thank
you to Michelle Clark who has been my rock during all of this. One more day closer... https://www.justgiving.com/teams/reunite-spain
At the beginning of the month, it was announced that the government has decided to opt in to the
recast of the EU legislation known as the Brussels IIa regulation. The
regulation outlines procedures to be used in cross-border family issues
within the EU, such as the recognition of existing court orders and the
abduction of children between EU states, and is currently being used by
UK courts.
Reunite took part in the government’s consultation on
the recast of Brussels IIa, and whether the UK should opt in to further
discussions. They stated that the government shares their view that it
is important for the UK to be part of the recast, even with Brexit on
the horizon.
Reunite feel the impact of the proposed changes on families
within the EU, including the families or British nationals living in
other EU states, could be significant.
Reunite made a submission to the Justice Committee’s consultation on ‘the implications of Brexit for the justice system’ shortly following the announcement.
The EU’s Brussels IIa regulation is currently integrated into UK national law. Brussels IIa allows for orders in relation to parental
responsibility to be recognised from one EU Member State to another, and
adds extra obligations on Member States for the benefit of children in
inter-EU 1980 Hague abduction cases.
As a
result, leaving the EU and potentially losing this key piece of
legislation is going to have an impact on UK law and international
family cases, and this needs to be taken into consideration by Parliament
whatever happens next.
Reunite hopes that their submission will be beneficial to the consultation and
ultimately help to inform Parliament to make the best decisions for
families and abducted children.
On the 17th November, Reunite organised a parents get together in London. This was a great opportunity to have a chat and share experiences with
other parents and a few members of the reunite team over a drink and
some nibbles.
They organise these meetings every second month. If you would like to attend one of the future meetings, send an email to Mitta at reunite@dircon.co.uk who will send you further details.
Sadly, several new cases were reported during the month of November involving UK, Spain, Poland and Jamaica. Reunite aim provide ongoing advice and support to the parents who speak with them and work with them towards what will hopefully be a positive outcome
for their children.
If you are affected by Parental Child Abduction and need advice, please call the Reunite International Child Abduction Centre advice line - 0044 (0)116 2556 234.
Later in the month, Reunite hosted a seminar with the British Embassy in Seoul on the 1980 Hague
Convention, with the aim of informing local lawyers about child
abduction and how the 1980 Hague Convention works.
There were a number of speakers, who included the Hague Permanent Bureau,
Judge Kim and Professor Suk from Korea, the Korean Central Authority,
Justice Bennett from Australia, John Mellor of CAFCASS, Anne-Marie
Hutchinson and our Reunite's Alison Shalaby.
Reunite hope that this seminar has helped to increase knowledge and
confidence amongst professionals, in an effort to secure the best
possible outcomes for the children in 1980 Hague cases.
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Also, late in November, Reunite's Sam Chapman attended the Embassy Consular Conference, talking about the work of reunite with
FCO's Consular Director, Julia Longbottom, and London's consular
community.
Here in Spain, we would like to offer our huge appreciation to the Costa Blanca Tranquillity Lodge for their continued support for the Reunite International Child Abduction Centre Charity. Through their efforts, they have raised approximately £1,500 that will be used towards updating the centre offices.
We would also like to give our best wishes and support to Shani Ormiston, who has supported the charity for a number of years through events and cd sales.
Her latest release "You Gotta Let It Go" can be seen on YouTube
As an update to the previous post, Shani has now produced a video for this song on YouTube and we would like to congratulate her and all involved for such an amazing job. It is brilliant!!
Watch Shani's video below.
Could I ask all to play and share her video as much as possible and give her the support she deserves?
Reunite will be holding an informal parent get-together this week
if you'd like to join them.
This is a great opportunity to have a chat and
share experiences with other parents and a few members of the reunite
team over a drink and some nibbles.
They will be meeting on the
evening of the 17th November in London, so if you'd like to join them
please send an email to Mitta at reunite@dircon.co.uk who will send you
further details.
The EU’s Brussels IIa regulation is currently
integrated into UK law. Brussels IIa allows for orders in
relation to parental responsibility to be recognised from one EU Member
State to another, and adds extra obligations on Member States for the
benefit of children in inter-EU 1980 Hague abduction cases.
As
a result, leaving the EU and potentially losing this key piece of
legislation is going to have an impact on UK law and international
family cases, and this needs to be taken into consideration by Parliament
whatever happens next.
Reunite hopes their submission will be beneficial to the consultation and
ultimately helps to inform Parliament to make the best decisions for
families and abducted children.
Reunite's CEO, Alison, was invited to attend the 2nd EuroAmerican Congress of
Family Law which was recently held in Uruguay. She met with Judges,
legal professionals, academics and organisations from a number of Latin
American countries, including Uruguay, Argentina, Chile and Brazil.
There was an opportunity to discuss challenges faced in cases of
parental child abduction and how reunite can work closer with key
stakeholders across Latin America to benefit families and children.
Also in October, Reunite exhibited at the Resolution Dispute Resolution Conference in Nottingham.
It was a great opportunity to speak with lawyers and other mediators
about how beneficial mediation can be in international cases involving
children, and to highlight the work of their advice line.
Earlier in October reunite attended a conference in Moscow examining the use
and enforcement of the 1980 and 1996 Hague Conventions in Russia.
The event was attended by experts from Russia and the UK, and examined
how child abduction cases are treated in both countries. Reunite's Development
and External Communications Liaison Officer Vicky spoke about the work
of reunite including their advice line, mediation and policy work.
The conference was a great opportunity to learn about different aspects
of the 1980 Hague system in Russia, and hopefully the information and
experience shared will be of use to parents in the future.
Following the success of this year's Reunite International Shield Football Tournament, Olaf Fett of the De Bassus - La Zenia team, who were runners-up, is calling for teams to start a soccer 8's senior league in support of Reunite International Child Abduction Centre.
If you are interested in playing for a team, or you have a team already established that would like to play in this friendly league, please contact Olaf at the de Bassus Bar and Restaurant at La Zenia (628 75 53 50 / 615 53 11 89 ) or email One Day Closer - onedaycloser.reunite@gmail.com
On 28th November, 2016, there will be a mini course programme held by LEPCA (Lawyers in Europe on Parental Child Abduction) at Istituto A.C. Jemolo, Vaile Guilio Cesare N.31, Rome, Italy on the subject of Parental Child Abduction
During a discussion with a parent today, I was informed of the tragic news that the parent's mother (the child's grandmother) had been driven to the point of absolute despair and took her own life citing her reasons in a note.
I found this message heartbreaking and also totally frustrating because the courts, the authorities, the media and many people who have not been affected do not seem to take any priority of the possible impact on the parent, the family and most importantly, the child.
This poor child has now lost a loving grandparent permanently when it could so easily have been avoided. How will this impact the child when they are old enough to understand what has happened? How do you think this will impact the rest of the family?
For me personally, this is also a very upsetting subject as my mother, who was an amazing lady, mother and grandmother and absolutely adored her grandchild, never had the opportunity to be reunited before she sadly passed away last November.
I saw first hand how distraught she was. It hurt her so much to no longer see her grandchild and also for her to see how much it was hurting HER child!! Me!
I wish parents would stop being so selfish in behaving in this abusive manner. I wish they would stop playing God with their children's lives.
I also wish that the authorities, the courts, the media and the public would see parental child abduction and alienation as the emotional abuse that it is and do what they can to deter this.....
You may have already seen from their Facebook page but Reunite's email
is down at the moment due to them changing service provider. If they are
needed, call the adviceline.. 01162 555 234 or 01162 555 345
Sadly, these tactics are used over and over again without deterrent or accountability for doing so...
"Dear Alienating / abducting "parents"
You have proven your point that you can take "ownership" of our child
by abducting and manipulating the system to achieve your goal in
destroying the parental and family bond of the child and family that
loves the child wholeheartedly.
You have proven that you can make false allegations, lie and deceive
the courts and authorities in any way that you want to without any
deterrent or accountability for doing so.
You have proven that
you can portray a good parent to be an absolute monster and also coach
your child in an attempt to have them believe your lies.
You
have proven that you can use the system over and over again as long as
the child's other parent and family do everything they can to be part of
your child's life.
You have shown that you are prepared to emotionally harm your child and your child's family who love each other unconditionally
Does this make you proud? Does it give you a feeling of accomplishment
to not only abuse your child's family but also your child him/her self?
Do you realise that this can affect your child, that you claim to love
for the rest of their childhood lives and even into adulthood? Possibly
even for the rest of their lives? Is this setting a good example for
them being parents when they are older?
Do you realise also
that when those children do start looking for answers, that the
alienation that you are inflicting right now could cause your child to
resent you.. And want to alienate you completely from their adult lives?
It is not too late to change your ways. Stop your abuse now.. Please.. For the sake of your child/children.
Anon (bound by gagging orders to "protect" the child from the truth)
Contact onedaycloser.reunite@gmail.com or phone Michelle on 0034 651 574 682 to order your copy. All proceeds from the Calendars sold by us will be given to the Reunite International Child Abduction Centre charity via our JustGiving page
The theme for the 11th edition (2017) is "La Bella Lola who represents the women of the town; so this is dedicated to the women of Torrevieja who are involved in every aspect of our lives as citizens"
The presentation was well attended by various charities and media from the area which gave the opportunity to discuss each charity and make new contacts in the tranquil setting of the Aroca Sequier - abogados garden (sponsor) in the Rocajuna urbanisation.
3 worthy charities were selected by Currencies Direct and were each presented with a cheque for the total of €3,200
Thank you to everybody for you continued support. It is very much appreciated. x
